Showing posts with label fortitude. Show all posts
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Friday, March 19, 2021

Sacrifice? Top 10 Reasons to Sacrifice - Intentionally!

Why Sacrifice?

When considering intentional sacrifice, one might ponder, "Why in the world would anybody ever, ever, deprive themselves of anything that could make their life easier, more enjoyable, and possibly delight their senses?"  Further to that point, "What if doing so causes some discomfort or worse yet, pain?"

There is but one reason to sacrifice, making discomfort truly worthwhile:  Love. 

You retort, "But I love a warm fuzzy blanket, a steamy-hot shower, a second helping of my favorite entrĂ©e, Facebook, Instagram, or a hot and creamy vanilla latte with a dollop of whipped cream. "   

That, my friend is not love.  But I understand. 

Sacrifice is Love

 In the immortal words of St. Maximillian Kolbe:

 


As Christians, we know that love begins with Jesus, and when it comes to sacrifice, He simply cannot be out done. 

Fortunately, Christ has made us partners in His sacrifice, as He calls us to “take up our cross and follow Him.”   He left a perfect example for us to follow in His steps, and He desires to share His sacrifice with us. 

According to Miriam Webster, sacrifice is, "The act of giving up something (what) that you want to keep, especially in order to (why) get or do something else or to help someone (who)."

Let's break sacrifice down in the life of us Christians, because, in our walk with Christ, everything matters – and everything counts.  If Jesus is the perfect example of sacrifice, borne of love, we need to understand the key elements of His sacrifice:


·                  What did Jesus sacrifice?  At times, He sacrificed sleep, food, comfort, fellowship, security, and ultimately, His life.  

·                  Who did He want to help?  You and me.  And to show how radical Jesus’ love is for us, we learn in Romans 5:8 “But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”      




·                  Why did He make these sacrifices?  First, to teach us what love looks like.  And as we learned from our dear friend, St. Maximillian Kolbe, “Without sacrifice, there is no love.” And because of His sacrifice we might have eternal life (John 3:16).  He came “…to give His life as a ransom for many… He loves us to the end… taking on our sins.” CCC 622 & 623.  His sacrifice is the reason we might inherit eternal life, plain and simple.  Can you think of a greater act of love than Jesus’ sacrifice?  Me neither…  



 

Jesus did just that, and it is true that we, as Christians, are His disciples, His students.  We are called to learn from Jesus: to live, love and serve as He served. As the famous rapper, Kanye West sings, we are to become Christlike.

In John 15:12 we read “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you." 
Yes, we are to love as Jesus loved. 

But how did Jesus ultimately show us His love?   He, being sinless and blameless, took our sins upon Himself for the forgiveness of OUR sins.  He sacrificed His life, that we may live.


I know Jesus' sacrifice is a stark contrast to the type of sacrifice we often consider, but for some of us, putting down our phone or saying 'no' to that vanilla latte is heroic!

St. Paul teaches that we are not to be strangers of sacrifice, "Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship." (Romans 12:1)



Sacrifice and the Battle
We are made up of both flesh and spirit.  Our spirit is always leading us to the things good, true, and beautiful; that will draw us closer to God. 

Unfortunately, our flesh, our humanity, is drawn toward the things of this world - the things that appeal to our senses, our flesh (I call this “fleshy”).  These things lead us away from God.  These temptations of the flesh, though unseen, but very sensed, make sacrifice feel like climbing a steep, daunting mountain, nearly impossible.      

 “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”  MT 26:41


St. Louis de Montfort teaches

… Wisdom is not found in the hearts of those who live in comfort, gratifying their passions and bodily desires, because 'they who are of the flesh cannot please God' and 'the wisdom of the flesh is an enemy to God.'   If we are to possess incarnate Wisdom, Jesus Christ, we must practice self-denial and renounce the world and self.

Simply put, if we give into the desires of our flesh, we hurt God, but if we fight against it, our reward is Jesus Himself. 


Sacrifice as a Prayer
Sacrifice, in and of itself can be fruitless, but if done for love of Lord and souls, it can be a powerful prayer!   It is not what we do, but why we do it that makes it great.  If we do all things for love of God, then our sacrifices will be great; for the Kingdom, the Universal Church, for our families (the Domestic Church), our loved ones, and for us.    




It is one thing to say, “No” to that hand-full of m & m's in order to fit into that new dress, and altogether another to offer that small sacrifice to God, for love of Him and souls.  If we are intentional with our sacrifices, we can spend our entire day loving God through our decisions – again, everything matters and everything counts when done for love of Him and souls. 


Love is not simply a feeling, it is a gift, and as Blessed Mother Teresa says, “Give until it hurts.”  That is love, Jesus-style. 

 


So, now that we understand sacrifice, here are the top 10 Reasons to Sacrifice - Intentionally:


Ten

If sweets, snacking between meals, or refraining from a second helping are our sacrifice, we might lose weight out of the deal! 



The next two (9 and 8) relate to sacrifice helping us grow in virtue.

 Nine

Sacrifice helps to grow in temperance (self-control), which is the gateway to greater virtue.

In his Autobiography, inventor, signer of the Declaration of Independence, and founding father, Ben Franklin challenges us, “Be at war with your vices!”  This requires temperance.


Furthermore, he encourages when pursuing virtue, to tackle temperance first, because it produces the “coolness and clearness of head…  necessary for constant vigilance… and helps guard against our bad habits and temptations.” 

To paraphrase, once we can gain self-control (temperance), the remainder of the virtues will come more easily.

How does this apply to us?   One cup of coffee for the day, not three.  Zero or one glass of wine, not two or three.  A quick snack?  Not now - later. Thirty minutes of social media (Facebook, Instagram, News, etc. rather than two to three hours, thirty minutes of video games, not three hours, etc.). 

Refraining from something we desire is sacrifice, and this requires temperance (self-control). 

 

Eight

Through sacrifice we will grow in the virtue of Fortitude by not giving in to our temptations.   We will grow stronger. 

By making sacrifices for love of Lord, we can temper our desires for the things of this world.  Each time we choose to sacrifice, rather than give into our temptation, we strengthen our spiritual muscles, thereby weakening the strength of the evil one (who… by the way… is and has been relentlessly pursuing us through temptation and studying our weaknesses since the day we were born - totally unfair.  I digress...)   

Jesus shared with Catalina Rivas, a Bolivian mystic and stigmatist:

Souls.. give into a whim, enjoy themselves in a passing satisfaction, and surrender… to what their passion demands…  Thinking to themselves, they say, ‘I have already deprived myself of this or that, and that is enough…’  If we do not have the courage to fight our own nature in a small thing.  We will be unable to fight when the occasion shall be greater.

As in strength training, when we sacrifice, or work against our desires, we exercise our spiritual muscles, thereby strengthening them, helping us to resist greater temptation in the future. 


Seven

Through this new discipline gained in sacrifice, we will find freedom.  Not freedom from temptation, mind you, but freedom the things that hold on to us (our attachments or addictions).  Our addictions and attachments will lose their hold on us, giving us greater freedom. 


 
 

Six

The fruit of freedom we gain through sacrifice is peace and her sister – joy. 

 

True peace of heart is found in resisting passions (sacrifice) not satisfying them. - Thomas a Kempis


A life, lived for love of Lord, enables us to live in peace and as a result, experience true joy. As F.B. Meyer encourages, “Joy is peace dancing and peace is joy at rest.”


Five

Sacrifice (fasting) allows us to better hear the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

We know that prayer and fasting together are powerful and fasting most assuredly is sacrifice.  Therefore, this type of sacrifice (fasting) detaches us from this world, our vices, attaching us to the next world. This detachment removes noise from our lives, opening us to the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. 


Four

By following Jesus’ example of sacrifice, we will grow closer to Him by walking in His footsteps.

We learn in 1 Peter 2:21, “Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps.”

As we know, Christ dying on the cross was the perfect sacrifice for our sins. His sacrifice was a loving act of obedience which forms for us a bridge we must cross in order to obtain heaven.  We cannot cross without "touching the cross"... hence sacrifice is our part of the cross.

 


And

John 13:15, “I have given you a model to follow, so that as I have done for you, you should also do.”    

We are able to gain heaven through Jesus’ sacrifice, and our cooperation with Him, by following in His footsteps.  Again, our journey to Him is made possible by His cross, which He asks us to carry – to sacrifice.  We can’t get from here to there without touching the cross (without sacrifice). 

 

Three
We know that God cannot be outdone in generosity.  Anything we choose sacrifice for love of Him and souls will be returned to us and those we love in the form of grace.  






As our dear friend St. Francis of Assisi affirms, “It is in giving that we receive.”

 


Two:

Our sacrifices help to fill the Church’s Treasury


Our Catholic Church has a tremendous gift in which we invited to participate!  The Church’s Treasury, also known as Treasury of Merit, the Treasury of Grace, or as the Schoenstatt sisters call it the Capital of Grace. 

 The Church’s Treasury is the infinite value, which can never be exhausted, consisting of:

  • -         Christ’s merits, setting the whole of mankind free from sin
  • -         The prayers and good works of the Blessed Virgin Mary, which are truly immense, unfathomable, and even pristine in their value before God
  • -         The cooperation of the saints through their prayers and good works who have followed in the footsteps of Christ  (CCC 1476 & 1477)
  • -         AND given we were created to know, love, and serve God, to be happy with Him in heaven (to be saints) our prayers and good works also contribute to the Church’s treasury

The Church’s Treasury is a wonderful exchange, wherein the holiness of one profits others, well beyond the harm that the sin of one could cause.

Therefore, we not only benefit from the sacrifices of Jesus, Mary, and the saints that have gone before us, on our path to sainthood, we can contribute to this rich treasury that other souls may come to know, love and serve Our Lord. 

In short, our sacrifice could be the grace needed for a soul to turn away from sin, or simply open their heart to Jesus. 

 

Number One Reason to sacrifice, intentionally

Through a life of sacrifice, by God’s grace, you can look forward to being welcomed in to an eternal family with the beautiful words,

"Well done, good and faithful servant!" (Matthew 25:21)

 



Sacrifice may not seem easy, but it is simple if we walk in the footsteps of Christ, relying on His strength, not our own. 




So how do we begin to incorporate sacrifice into our daily life?  In the encouraging words of our friend, St. Francis of Assisi, who has already finished the race, and is praying for us to join him in an eternal family:

 

Start small, start with love.  God will help you take care of the rest. 

Thank you and happy sacrificing!!! 


Sources:

Images in order:
- St. Max Kolbe - Word on Fire
- While we were still sinners - Calvary's Closet on Instagram
- Romans 12:1 - KnowingJesus.com
- Spirit is Willing - Quoteseed.com
- St. Therese, Nothing is small -  Dowym.com
- St. Mother Teresa, With Great Love - Relatably.com
- Give until it hurts, Mother Teresa - Ignatius.com
- Lose weight  - thebigyogi.com
- Through discipline, Aristotle - A-Z Quotes
- FB Myer - Quotefancy.com
- Crossing on the Cross - Theinscribedheart.com
- It is in giving - Christ Church Pensacola
- Treasure chest - Publicdomainpictures.net
- Well Done Good and Faithful Servant - keepcalm-o-matic-co.uk
-  Do Not be afraid, JPII - The Culture Project
- Start by doing what's necessary, St. Franis - Yoddler.com

Tuesday, July 14, 2020

Carry Your Cross and it will Carry You to Heaven


"If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me."  Luke 9:23 NASB 

At prayer group earlier this summer we were discussing the value of our crosses.  Our crosses can be  experienced as difficult trials, ordeals, and disappointments: marriages or friendships that have failed; the death of loved ones, jobs that don’t work out, our own or a loved one's declining health, futures that are yet unknown, our struggle to overcome our own temptations, weakness, or addictions, etc.1 In the beautiful work, Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence, we learn that each cross is lovingly given to us from our Lord to sanctify us (help us become holy - the saints He created us to become).  Our crosses also allow us to unite our suffering with Christ crucified for love of Him and souls (to intercede for souls), and to grow in the virtues of trust, love, patience, and hope.  There are a vast number of benefits our crosses provide - too many to count - these are a small sampling.

In the immortal words of St. John Vianney (The Cure of Ars), the patron saint of Parish Priests, and a personal favorite of mine (at least in the top 300),
"You must accept your cross; if you bear it courageously, it will carry you to heaven."

To carry our cross with joy, most of us can admit is not where we are in our faith journey - our crosses can be heavy and sometimes even hurt.  However, to accept our crosses (resign to them) and carry them with courage, asking for His assistance, in spite of the difficulty, this is what He desires.  He assures us that His yoke is easy and His burden light (MT 11:30).  The area where we struggle most is asking divine aid.

During our discussion at prayer group, a dear friend, Leah, explained that her daughter shared a wonderful illustration regarding our crosses that resonated, and think we can all benefit from (I suspect this pearl came from one of the joyful and beautiful sisters from Schoenstatt in Sleepy Eye, MN - thank you Schoenstatt sisters!):

A pilgrim was carrying his cross, and found it to be too heavy to bear for his journey.  His initial reaction was to find a way to lessen his burden.   He proceeded to shave a bit off of his cross, thereby making it lighter and easier to bear.  Each time the cross caused him discomfort, or struggle, he shaved off more, until the cross became very small and light.

He reached the end of his journey (the gates of heaven), and  found a tall and daunting wall.  Having no way to scale this wall, he observed other pilgrims as they reached the wall. Each pilgrim scaled the wall, employing the cross he had had carried on his own journey.
The pilgrim then asked another pilgrim, "How can I scale the wall, my cross is too small and is of little use?" 
The other pilgrim explained that because his cross is too small to be of any use, he must go back and help another pilgrim carry his cross and they can both use the cross to scale the wall.

The path to heaven is heaven, indeed.  But Jesus showed us what this looks like.  We must take up our cross (the crosses He has given us), daily, and follow Him.  This is our path to holiness - to Heaven.  If we try to avoid crosses, we will lose the opportunity He is providing to become more like Him, the saint He created us to be.

If we choose not to carry our cross, He gives us the opportunity to help our brothers and sisters carry theirs.  This too will help us grow in virtue and become more like Him.  The goal is not to avoid trials, but bear them courageously, with His grace.  This will carry us to Heaven.

 “You must accept your cross; if you bear it courageously, it will carry you to heaven.” St. John Vianney


AMDG
+JMJ+

He showed His love for us on the Cross - "while we were still sinners, Christ [suffered and] died for us" Romans 5:8.



Resources:
1.  https://brewsterbaptistchurch.org/carrying-cross/
Image - The Catholic Gentleman - https://www.catholicgentleman.net/

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Applying the Cardinal Virtues to Motherhood, Cont...

Applying the Cardinal Virtues to Motherhood, Part VI
A Thesis by Jacquelyn Barten, Guest Blogger


On Fortitude

Fortitude ensures firmness in difficulties and constancy in the pursuit of good.  By its nature fortitude also perfects the spirited emotions of hope, courage, fear, despair, and anger.[1]  In other words, fortitude gives the ability to resist temptation, overcome obstacles, conquer fear, and face trials and persecutions.  It is a resoluteness of mind to endure any kind of danger, endure any suffering.[2]  Pieper wrote that human fortitude realizes this essential image: “man accepts insecurity; he surrenders confidently to the governance of higher powers; he ‘risks’ his immediate well-being; he abandons the tense, egocentric hold of a timorous anxiety.”[3]
One of the first examples Pope John Paul II drew upon in his 1978 General Audience on fortitude is the courage a mother experiencing difficulties with an already large family has in rejecting advice to end her pregnancy, and how she recognizes the sacredness of her pregnancy in doing so.[4]  Although familiar, this is an extreme circumstance.  There are countless heroic acts of fortitude, “little deaths” in motherhood known only to the mother’s conscience and God.  These little sacrifices could be as simple as waking up with a smile on your face for your children, gifts of love from God, after an interrupted night’s sleep, or cleaning up the spilled beverage for the third time with a joy in serving.  Kaczor and Sherman wrote that “small acts of goodness lead to more, and eventually a stable disposition to seek what is truly good.”[5]  Mother’s learn to die to self, a form of “white martyrdom.”[6]  They learn to temper and tame their emotions.  Kaczor and Sherman explain that “passions such as anger, fear, or desire are not considered in a general way good or evil.  Once a passion is brought into human action, however, this act of reason and will, though motivated by passion, has a character of good or evil.”[7]  The passions call for “neither praise nor blame” but, for example, being overly angry to an unreasonable degree may be blameworthy.[8]  While on the other hand, St. Thomas discussed how anger in action modified by reason can be found in a virtuous person.[9]  Anger brings about the realization of the need for discipline, which is indispensible in parenting.  When a mother is brave through anger, she makes a choice and acts steadfastly with purpose.[10]
St. Thomas wrote specifically about what is required of mankind to have the virtue of courage: the exercise of four related habits: magnanimity [confidence – not pusillanimity (shrinking back), or presumption (ambition, or vainglory)], magnificence (the ability to accomplish great things), patience (“suffering well” brings one to beatitude) and perseverance.[11] 

St. Thomas cites Scripture for an example of pusillanimity (Col. 3:21): “Fathers, provoke not your children to indignation, lest they be discouraged."[12]  Kaczor and Sherman expound on St. Thomas’ writings that “pride may be at work when people maintain their (belittling)[pusillanimity] viewpoint of themselves, thereby not shouldering the duties that they are capable of carrying,” to be a father or mother to a large family, for example.[13]  Vocations such as this take magnanimity, not to be confused, however, with vainglory.  Living a virtuous life always requires a delicate balance, a finding of the mean of a virtue.  The second habit, magnificence, may help a mother to have the goal of raising her children to be holy and virtuous, while recognizing that any success she has is through the grace of God. 

The third required habit of fortitude is patience.  Patience requires a preparedness of the mind, an act of prudence.  Kaczor and Sherman remind us of how Jesus was the best teacher of patience.  “Knowing all things, he waited for others to learn.  Capable of all things, he himself grew in wisdom and stature as a human.  Aware of the future and end of all people, he nevertheless related to them in time as they were.”[14]  This is the patient understanding that a mother is called to.  Discussing this third habit, St. Thomas pushed the virtue of patience a step further to the necessity of humility.  “Now it belongs to fortitude of the mind to bear bravely with infirmities of the flesh, and this belongs to the virtue of patience or fortitude, as also to acknowledge one's own infirmity, and this belongs to the perfection that is called humility.”[15]  How often do parents know more than children, but do not humble themselves to patiently wait for them to learn?

St. Thomas discussed the final habit of fortitude, perseverance, as a special virtue since it consists in enduring delays in virtuous deeds so far as necessity requires.[16]  This means abandoning the vices opposed to perseverance: being headstrong, stubborn, or opinionated, wanting one’s own way rather than what is right. [17]  For this reason, Kaczor and Sherman note that “grace is especially important for perseverance.”[18]  Motherhood constantly asks mothers to persevere and work with their faults, educating them through prayer and with the graces that especially come through the sacraments, in order to be virtuous in the home.  Pieper stated that “endurance, not wrathful attack, is the ultimately decisive test of actual fortitude,” since the “uttermost strength of the good manifests itself in powerlessness.”[19]  As Pieper explains, the Gospel message of offering your other cheek when someone strikes you is not to be taken literally, but it signifies a readiness of the soul to bear, if it be necessary, such things and worse, without bitterness against the attacker.[20]  Christ did this on the cross; mothers do this, albeit to a lesser degree, every day in their homes. 

Ultimately, how can mothers acquire the cardinal virtue of fortitude?  God graces them with the first step in the right direction: the vulnerable state created by each new stage in motherhood with its host of questions and doubts.  Pieper noted, “without vulnerability there is not possibility of fortitude.”[21]  Christians are assured that if they ask God and pray to the Holy Spirit for patience or simply the virtue of fortitude in general, those prayers will be answered.  Pieper wrote that “The supernatural fortitude bestowed by grace, which is a gift of the Holy Spirit, pervades and crowns all other ‘natural’ modes of Christian fortitude.”[22]  Acquired habits are perfected by God’s graced gift of hope: “hope for eternal life is properly a gift, and that without this gift there can be no such thing as truly Christian fortitude.”[23]  St. Thomas stated: “Hence it is not presumptuous for a man to attempt the accomplishment of a virtuous deed: but it would be presumptuous if one were to make the attempt without confidence in God's assistance.”[24] 

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[1]Catechism 1808; Torraco, Part B, 2-3 & 3-2.
[2] Kaczor and Sherman, 227.
[3] Pieper, 138-141.
[4] Pope John Paul II, General Audience, November 15, 1978, (Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1978), http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/john_paul_ii/audiences/1978/documents/hf_jp-ii_aud_19781122_en.html [accessed October 2, 2010].    
[5] Kaczor and Sherman, 279.
[6] Ibid, 250.
[7] Ibid, 254.
[8] Aquinas, II, II, 125, 1.
[9] Ibid, II, II, 123, 10.
[10] Aquinas, II, II, 123, 10.
[11] Kaczor and Sherman, 227.
[12] Aquinas, II, II, 133, 1.
[13] Kaczor and Sherman, 285.
[14] Kaczor and Sherman, 287.
[15] Aquinas, II, II, 123, 1.
[16] Aquinas, II, II, 137, 1.
[17] Ibid, II, II, 138, 2.
[18] Kaczor and Sherman, 290.
[19] Pieper, 131.
[20] Pieper, 132.
[21] Ibid, 117.
[22] Pieper, 141.
[23] Ibid, 141.
[24] Aquinas, II, II, 130, 1.